Over the years, desire has evolved beyond duality—yes, it’s a play of words. In the esoteric world, there is a notion that everything is one beyond the duality of polarity. And everything is just vibrations, mass and energy, they say, you know. But in my case, it’s very pragmatic, in the sense that no exercises will be done with just two people. Instead, we always work in trios and quadruples, solo by ourselves or together with the entire group. We will actively avoid the simple polarities of dominant/submissive, leader/follower, etc., because they are simply already explored. But there is a deeper reason: growing up in today’s society, most things get polarised, into black or white, left-wing or right-wing, masculine or feminine. Similarly, many concepts work by comparison; something is hot because something else is cold, and someone wins because another loses.
The esoteric eros is different because it embraces the ever-changing complexity of things and attempts to play with them in a win-win situation. Expect cognitive dissonance instead of straightforward truths because that is how the eros works—it’s a messy maze of desire filled with opportunities to explore. How do we know what to pursue intimately with others, and what should remain a private feverish daydream? It all comes down to being safe, brave, and vulnerable enough to share it. It’s not about you and the love of your life, happily married forever after, as promised in the fairy-tale of duality. Instead, it’s about being adopted into an ensemble of elegance and absurdity, where your forbidden desires appear petite and playful—BUT without turning into a circus or joking away the seriousness of the situation—this is the balancing act I offer you. And I do it because your desire deserves it.
Instructor
If tight ropes and contorted body postures express physical masochism, then shame is the core of the emotional counterpart. Beauty, competence and elegance are all masks we wear to fit in. What if they are dropped or lovingly torn off to expose that raw, unfiltered you?
Andy Buru
Andy is a student of theatre and tea, a medical massage therapist, a former organizational coach, a conscious kinkster, and a teacher of European and Japanese rope bondage. Living in Stockholm, Sweden and working around northern Europe. During his fifteen years of BDSM, he has been a slave, an owner, a hedonist, a purist, a magician, and a slut.
My work aims to create magical rooms where people can rest, heal and grow. My tools, spirit and experience spring from neuro-semantic team building, medical massage therapy, European theatre, and Japanese rope bondage.
I work with both groups and individuals, and I love that the world is allowed to be complicated because that makes every meeting unique. My time in Japan engraved into me the presence, passion and embrace for the glimpse of zen that exists in every movement of life – and this I gladly share with you in a session, workshop, or with a cup of tea.
[Source: https://andyburu.se/]
Details
What to expect this weekend
This is not a rope event!
This is for both beginners and more experienced and you are welcome with (poly-)partners, lovers, friends or you can come solo.
All exercises will be done in trios or quadruples, solo or with the entire group. Switching roles is possible but not required during the event.
Date: Friday 30. May to Sunday 01. June 2025
Friday
17:30 Doors open
18:00 – 21:00 Workshop
Saturday
09:00 Doors open
10:00 – 13:00 Workshop
13:00 – 15:00 Lunch Break
15:00 – 18:00 Workshop
19:00 – 21:00 Ritual
Sunday
09:00 Doors open
10:00 – 13:00 Workshop
13:00 – 15:00 Lunch Break
15:00 – 18:00 Workshop
Dinner together
Venue
tbd
Tickets (22/22 available)
300€ per person
Requirements
basic rope skills
Registration
We ask all participants to register individually at abws@querverbindungen.at
(Let us know if you prefer to work with one specific partner or if you want to switch partners. Both options will be available.)
Language
English
Food
Lunchbreaks together or by yourselves (a lot of great food places are nearby!)
Snacks, coffee, etc. are provided on location.
Bring
- a wearable symbol of being the top/master/queen of motherfucking everything—like a grandmother’s diamond tiara, Tom-of-Finland leather pants, or your Masonic purple silk robe
- a wearable symbol of being the bottom/servant/slave—maybe your dog’s collar, most trashy lingerie, or a royal butler’s suit
- something that transforms your face—like a carnival papier mache mask, home-knitted pink balaclava, or shiny black latex hood
- a handheld mirror (or other reflective surface)—for perceiving yourself as another
- a washing kit—containing a water container, washing cloth, soap and towel
- an item of consequence—like a headmistress’s whip, a headmaster’s cane, or a heavy wooden spoon
- a delicate item worthy of a (human) altar—something to balance that may not be broken
- something you love to be fed—plus a golden tray, a vintage dish or a dirty dog bowl for serving it
- an item of fetisch—forbidden and taboo but simultaneously exciting and liberating—an item of divine power
- Comfortable clothes
- personal comfort items
- note taking utensils
We are looking forward to welcoming you at this fantastic workshop!